But, thankfully, the North Carolina freshmen have been able to go through it together -- supporting each other, nourishing each other.
And always, above all else, ripping on each other during practice.
"Spellman thinks he can always stop the ball," said Prossner, a starting attackman, after a recent UNC practice. "I always show him who's good out there."
"Jed thinks he can take all the defensemen," retorted Spellman, the team's starting goalkeeper, "but it never happens really."
The team's leading scorer and goalkeeper bickering in practice? Gasp! Sounds like dissension among the ranks. Better sit the two of them down, pour a couple cups of hot chai and get them to sort out their differences.
But don't count on UNC coach John Haus to do that anytime soon. The competition between Prossner and Spellman is real, but the banter is friendly. And that's a comforting sign to their coach.
"We need that here; we need competition," Haus said. "And I think that maybe in the past that's what's hurt us -- we haven't had the competition that we need. And the beauty of this team and hopefully the teams down the road is we're going to be very competitive."
The youthful Tar Heels, which start three freshmen and three sophomores, are hoping that that competition -- as well as the growing pains experienced during painfully close losses -- will pay dividends this weekend at the ACC Tournament.
UNC (7-3), seeded fourth, plays top-seeded and No. 1-ranked Virginia (8-1) today at 6 p.m. at Duke's Koskinen Stadium. The second-seeded Blue Devils (5-5) take on third-seeded Maryland (7-3) in the other semifinal at 8:30 p.m.