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True life: ‘Tweet the Parents’

Six months ago, I lost my father in a horrible accident: I lost him to Twitter. I never even got to say goodbye.

We knew we might lose him two years earlier, when a doctor explained that he could text to avoid speaking on the phone.

Still, as much as you prepare, it’s never easy losing a parent.

When the symptoms came, they started small. Little things, like welcoming me home at the airport with the heart-swelling message: “Left your car in parking deck.” (True.)

Before that, there was the email that my dog died. (Also true.) That last one may seem insensitive, but to be fair, the subject line was a sad face.

These next few months are going to be particularly difficult. Fall was always his favorite season. Maybe, when the leaves start to turn, I’ll visit his Facebook page and remember the good times. I might leave him little notes, telling him how I’m doing. It may seem silly to you, but I know in my heart he’d be somewhere reading them.

He’s not the only victim. Technology’s advanced so far that scientists now believe a cure for family may not be as far off as we once feared.

Today, it seems like everyone’s got it.

Who could forget N.Y. Rep. Anthony Weiner resigning after tweeting photos of his junk? Maybe I’m old fashioned, but when I was young, if a man flashed his penis to a woman, he had the common courtesy to do it in person. There’s no human connection anymore.

But as much as I’d like to point the finger at my father for our own problems communicating, truth is, I’m just as guilty. Oh, how often I’ve tried to force the Internet on my grandparents.

Sometimes, when I’m at my lowest, I like to fantasize about a world where all I’d have to say was, “I’d really love to talk more about your sore testicle, Grandpa, but unfortunately, we’re running out of characters.”

I can see myself on my deathbed — 100 years from now, surrounded by admirers and a full head of hair — taking my son’s arm and saying weakly, “You’ve grown so much. I remember when you lost your first follower. But I wasn’t there for so much. I … I should have retweeted you more.” Then, I’ll chuckle at the line, add it to my Facebook quotes page and slip away.

Well, enough is enough. Starting today, I’m on a mission to get my family back. I will not tweet them, I will not text them. Hell, I won’t even like them. Even if it means we only speak once a year. And, actually, this whole thing is sounding better and better.

So please, let my family’s tragedy be an example for yours.

Take a good look in the mirror. If our story rings true in your own life, put down the phone. Then, pick it back up again. Do you see those little number-looking things? Try pressing them until you reach someone. It’s our only hope.

And you can also follow my progress @memetwalker.

Memet Walker is a columnist from The Daily Tar Heel. He is a junior political science major from Chapel Hill. Contact him at memet@unc.edu.

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