Instead, Kilar spoke about failure and loss.
“I was personally lost and professionally about as far from my dreams as one could be,” he said of the months after his own graduation.
Holding back tears, he told the crowd that his father committed suicide just days after Kilar’s graduation.
“The man I admired most, who taught me so much, was gone from this world just three days after I last saw him in this very stadium,” Kilar said.
He lost his job and landed in trouble with the police for living out of his car.
“The mountain peaks of one’s life may get the headlines and the Facebook posts but the valleys — believe me — it is your journey through the valleys that will define you,” he said.
As a UNC alumnus, Kilar related to the graduates’ college experience. He received degrees from the School of Journalism and Mass Communication and the Kenan-Flagler Business School. He also met his wife a few months before his graduation.
Tyler Johnson, an exercise and sport science graduate, said she could relate to Kilar’s struggles.