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Column: The value in emotional intelligence

Editorial Board member Gaby Nair

Editorial Board member Gaby Nair

When I started college, my priorities were school, extracurriculars and relationships, in that order.

But since, I’ve realized that my priorities were out of whack. More often than not, it is important to put relationships first.

I have realized that cultivating relationships is an integral part of the grand learning experience that is college. And, of course, relationships in this sense are in no way limited to romantic ones. I mean relationships with friends, family, partners, professors, acquaintances and the people we pass by every day on the way to class. And the more and more we engage in relationships with these people in our lives, the more our emotional intelligence grows.

Emotional intelligence is something that is somehow simultaneously extremely valuable and undervalued. The more emotionally intelligent we become, the more our capacity for empathy develops.

Without engaging in relationships with other people, how are we to understand where other people are coming from when they have different opinions? If we shut ourselves off to other people, how can we expect to understand and be understood?

This board spends a considerable amount of time evaluating the things that affect this campus, and it is important to note that we do not do so as detached members of this university community. We are engaged in relationships with the people on this campus every day. We are empathetic toward our friends, our peers, our professors and more. In engaging in these relationships, we gain a greater capacity to understand and be understood by the people of this campus.

Hopefully, this emotional intelligence comes through in our editorials.

And, if we’re lucky, it will be recognized and lauded for the special role it plays in our understanding and discussion of this university.

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